Keep Calm & Carry On: How To Keep Your Zen Amidst Your Postponed (Or Cancelled!) Wedding 

Guest Blog 

by MILK Books

Planning your dream wedding requires you to devote a significant amount of time and effort for that special day to happen successfully. But when Coronavirus crashes your wedding plans and ruins it for you, it’s a whole different story. Even so, don’t fret; you’re not alone in this dilemma. Your postponed or cancelled wedding is one of the many casualties among the countless couples that were also looking forward to their special day just like you were.

We understand that it must have been devastating to learn that you had to push back your wedding date. This is most especially true if you’ve been planning your wedding for more than a year now and have been dreaming of that day since you were a kid. However, with the right attitude and the help of these steps, you and your partner can tread these uncertain waters with confidence!

  • Put Things Into Perspective

The first thing you’d want to do is to reconsider your wedding priorities. Ask yourself, what are the most important parts of your wedding that you want to happen no matter what? On the other hand, what are some of the things that you think you’ll be okay not doing? Are you flexible in modifying several things in order to adjust with these uncertain times? 

For instance, couples have been getting more and more creative to push through with their weddings and finally become husband and wife. Some have carried out more intimate ceremonies with only their family and few friends attending. Others even continued with remote wedding alternatives. 

At a time of a pandemic, remind yourself that the welfare of your family and guests is as important as the wedding itself. At the same time, know the limitations of what you can only conduct in your area and assess how to move forward with that in mind.

  • Consult with Your Suppliers, Family and Guests

It’s absolutely necessary to revisit your contract with your vendors and learn about your mutual obligations and terms with them. It is because there are couples who had to pay for cancellation and postponement fees due to COVID-19. That’s why talking it out, compromising your terms, and coming up with plans B, C, and D are essential. That begs the question, do you really need to cancel your wedding? 

Additionally, learn which of your suppliers are open to adopting new schedules, if they will still be able to push through with their services and if their businesses are still open for the rest of the year and maybe even the next. Other concerns that you should tackle is to secure the availability of your venue, learn whether your florists can produce your flowers regardless of the season, and just essentially pick your way through your suppliers, one at a time.

Lastly, it is also important that you notify your family and guests about the uncertainties of conducting your wedding. You can also be proactive in learning about their future plans once you finally decide to push through with your special day. 

  • Be Open to New Possibilities

Across the globe, couples find ways to cope and adapt to what they now call the new normal. While the vaccine is yet to be created and social distancing becoming the norm, some have even suggested to stop rescheduling their wedding and continue with a coronavirus-friendly gathering instead.

Having an open mind and considering alternatives other than a traditional wedding like the aforementioned, can be your backup. Of course, as long as the safety of you and your guests are assured, you should still go after your dream wedding and follow through with what you and your partner desire. This is your wedding after all, and no one should be able to take away your once in a lifetime chance to make it more memorable.

However, with all these considerations in mind and an emerging trend in weddings after COVID-19, it wouldn’t hurt to have other possible courses of action. And if you do decide to follow the unconventional path, you should begin considering doing some of the work on your own if in any case that any of your suppliers fall short. 

You have the option to conduct your wedding shoot if you or your partner have the eye for that. And while you’re at it, maybe get it printed with a beautifully handcrafted photo album like this one. You could also have a go at making your invitations if you’re crafty and really artistic. 

With the crisis happening, people have a lot of time in their hands and you could use this as an opportunity to slowly work through the grunt of your wedding preparations. Your beautiful wedding will one day come; and once it does, it’ll be worth the long wait. What matters for now is you are safe and facing this challenge together. After all, the ultimate goal is not the wedding itself, but the journey of going through life together.